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There is no definitive list of life skills. The list below includes the psychosocial and interpersonal skills generally considered important. The choice of, and emphasis on, different skills will vary according to the topic and local conditions (e.g., decision-making may feature strongly in HIV/AIDS prevention whereas conflict management may be more prominent in a peace education program). Though the list suggests these categories are distinct from each other, many skills are used simultaneously in practice. For example, decision-making often involves critical thinking ("what are my options?") and values clarification ("what is important to me?"). Ultimately, the interplay between the skills is what produces powerful behavioural outcomes, especially where this approach is supported by other strategies such as media, policies and health services.

Communication and Interpersonal Skills

Interpersonal communication skills

  • Verbal/Nonverbal communication
  • Active listening
  • Expressing feelings; giving feedback (without blaming) and receiving feedback

Negotiation/refusal skills

  • Negotiation and conflict management
  • Assertiveness skills
  • Refusal skills


  • Ability to listen and understand another's needs and circumstances and express that understanding

Cooperation and Teamwork

  • Expressing respect for others' contributions and different styles
  • Assessing one's own abilities and contributing to the group

Advocacy Skills

  • Influencing skills & persuasion
  • Networking and motivation skills

Decision-Making and Critical Thinking Skills

Decision making / problem solving skills

  • Information gathering skills
  • Evaluating future consequences of present actions for self and others
  • Determining alternative solutions to problems
  • Analysis skills regarding the influence of values and attitudes of self and others on motivation

Critical thinking skills

  • Analyzing peer and media influences
  • Analyzing attitudes, values, social norms and beliefs and factors affecting these
  • Identifying relevant information and information sources

Coping and Self-Management Skills

Skills for increasing internal locus of control

  • Self esteem/confidence building skills
  • Self awareness skills including awareness of rights, influences, values, attitudes, rights, strengths and weaknesses
  • Goal setting skills
  • Self evaluation / Self assessment / Self-monitoring skills

Skills for managing feelings

  • Anger management
  • Dealing with grief and anxiety
  • Coping skills for dealing with loss, abuse, trauma

Skills for managing stress

  • Time management
  • Positive thinking
  • Relaxation techniques

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Aajma Manoj 10 years ago
Patience is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay, or frustration without becoming agitated or upset. It's the ability to be able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficulties. It comes from the Latin word pati which means to suffer, to endure, to bear.
Needless to say, patience does not come easily to most of us and it's probably harder now to be patient than historically it has ever been.
In today's world of 'instant everything', technological advancements and readily available credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and consume practically anything we want - almost immediately.
Do we even need to be patient anymore?
Well, if we want to reach our goals, have successful relationships and achieve personal peace, the answer is a resounding yes!
Anything worthwhile and of importance cannot take place right away. It takes time, dedication and effort to achieve; so even in this day and age, patience is a virtue.
The Benefits of Developing Patience
Reduces stress levels and makes you a happier, healthier person. When you learn and practice patience you don't get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed. You are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.
This promotes longevity and makes you a happier, healthier person.
Results in better decision-making. When you're patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste. Taking the time to problem solve requires patience and deliberation.
Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion. You are automatically more understanding and compassionate with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the time to process what they go through and are able to determine what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with spouses, friends, children and bosses.
Helps you understand and appreciate the process of growth. As mentioned earlier anything worthwhile takes time and effort to achieve. As the old saying goes "Rome wasn't built in a day." Planning, growth, evaluation and measurement all take time, and taking time takes patience.

Tips on How to Develop Patience

Take a day where you make patience your goal for the entire day. Make a concerted effort to take your time and think about everything you do, be mindful and live in the moment. At the end of the day, observe all the ways in which you've made smarter decisions, got along better with others and actually understood what took place. Learn to do it on a daily basis. Developing patience is much like physical exercise because it requires persistence and effort.
Slow down.
If you have the tendency to rush around and try to hurry things up, want things done immediately and can't wait for things to take their natural course, STOP. Take several deep breaths before you act or make a move. For example, if you're in a long lineup at the grocery store or in heavy traffic, make the decision to pause and not get worked up. Do some isometrics, listen to the radio, or just enjoy the view. Getting impatient won't make things move along any faster, so why get worked up for nothing?
Practice delaying gratification. When you want to reach for that dessert, second drink or buying your tenth pair of red shoes, stop and think about it first. Maybe you don't need or want any of them that badly after all. You can save yourself some money or added calories.
Practice thinking before you speak. At times we blurt out the first thought that comes into our head without considering the consequences. If we're patient, pause and go over what we want to say, we can avoid hurting or offending others.

Situations for which patience is a must:
Reaching most goals
Losing weight
Having a baby
Becoming a professional career person such as a doctor, lawyer, engineer
Becoming a top athlete
Becoming a virtuoso in any musical field
The healing of any wounds or illnesses
Getting over loss or tragedy

Patience is definitely a valuable character trait to develop. It may appear to be passive, however it is an active, purposeful and necessary form of self-discipline. Without patience many of our actions would be counter-productive and ultimately much time and energy would be wasted spinning our wheels. Surely, patience is a time-tested virtue.
"Patience is the companion of wisdom."
St. Augustine
Aajma Manoj 10 years ago
Nothing ius impossible becauz the word it self says`I 'M POSSIBLE'
Aajma Manoj 10 years ago
Reduce Exam Anxiety
When Studying
1. Take organized notes.
Most students wait until the end of the semester to start their review. Generally, they read and re-read their class notes word for word or go back through their textbooks. This can be tedious, time consuming, and not very effective. Try this instead. Begin preparing for your exams the day you receive your course materials by reviewing the syllabus and scanning the textbook. This will help you get a feel for what will be covered so you don't get any surprises.
As you're reading your text and preparing your assignments each week, focus on topics that are unfamiliar to you. Are certain points repeated or explained more thoroughly than others? Highlight or underline only the key words and phrases related to these points--not entire sentences. Also keep an eye out for definitions, formulas, lists, and items that are prominently featured.
After you've finished each assignment, grab your notebook and outline the points you've learned (main points followed by supporting points in words and phrases). Include examples to help you better retain the information. Leave plenty of white space so that you can add notes later--either from class or from later readings that pertain to the topics you've outlined. Your aim is to keep notes on similar topics in a logical sequence and avoid any duplication. If you have extra time, type your notes on a computer to make them easy to read and reorganize if needed.
If you don't understand something, get help before you move on. Lessons tend to build on one another, so you need to grasp the foundation material first. If there's a topic that's giving you trouble, talk to your professor or research the topic further at the library or on the Internet.
2. Transfer some of your notes to flash cards.
Studying in short time spurts is much more effective than reviewing in marathon sessions. Make up a set of 3x5 index cards for terms and concepts you have difficulty remembering. Include the term or concept on one side and the definition or description on the other. Keep adding cards as your course progresses and take them with you wherever you go. Then, whenever you have a few minutes, pull out your cards and test yourself on them in random order. Study actively by asking yourself questions on the material you don't know well.
As soon as you can, determine what type of test will be given. Multiple choice, true or false, fill-in-the-blank, and essay are the most common. (Most standardized tests are multiple choice.) If there's a practice test available, take it without referring back to your notes. Mark the questions you have difficulty with so that you know what areas you need to review more thoroughly.
3. Commit your notes to memory.
If you follow steps 1 and 2, by the time you reach the end of your course you'll have little left to do to prepare for your test. By reviewing often and in short time spurts, you'll spend less time in each study session and you'll be able to retain the information better and you won't get fatigued. As the test day nears, review your study sheets more and more frequently. As you get closer to test day, you'll find that you'll be able to absorb more and more material in less and less time. Do not merely memorize the information. Your aim is to understand the material so that it makes sense in your mind and you'll be able to retain it better.
Try to study when you're most alert and where you won't be distracted. Also, take time to meditate on the material by reviewing it in your head away from your notes. Put in your own words what you've read and connect these thoughts to what you already know. You may even combine studying with another activity, such as gardening, waiting at the doctor's office, or waiting in traffic, so you'll feel less stressed and alone.
On Test Day
4. Arrive early.
Allow enough time for driving, parking, and finding the exam room. Don?t get there too early, however. Lengthy last minute reviews seldom improve your chances. Ideally, you should arrive within 15 minutes of the time the test will begin.
5. Be prepared.
The night before the test, set aside the items you'll need, such as pencils, pens, calculators, and ID tags. Most tests are timed, so wear a wristwatch. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat a light breakfast, and drink fluids so that you?ll be functioning at your peak. Dress in layers; you'll want to feel slightly cool during the test.
6. Get comfortable.
Relax. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. If you suffer badly from nerves, try deep breathing or other relaxation technique before you attempt the test. Use affirmations, such as "I'm well prepared," "I know I'll succeed," or "I've got plenty of time to answer all the questions."
7. Read the directions carefully.
Generally, you're allowed time to review the directions before the test begins. Take advantage of it. Preview the test if you?re allowed so that you can determine how much time you'll need to allot to each section.
8. Skim the entire test.
Answer the easy questions first. This will give you confidence and will buy you time to think about the tougher ones. While looking over the test and doing the easy questions, your subconscious mind will have been working on the answers to the harder ones. Read each question thoroughly. Don't linger too long on any one question.
9. Complete every question.
In most cases, a guess is better than leaving it blank. (Find out if you're penalized for wrong answers.) Express difficult questions in your own words. Rephrasing a question can make it clearer to you, but be sure you don't change its meaning. For true/false and multiple-choice exams, look for words of exclusivity like always, never, only, and even if. Watch for modifying or
limiting phrases. Instructors often insert names, dates, places, or other details to make a statement inaccurate. Remember that all parts of a statement must be true or the entire statement is false.
10. Review your answers.
Take any remaining time to review your answers to ensure that you understood the question correctly. If you're allowed, consider placing a small mark next to each question as you go through them the first time to identify those you're not sure of. Virtually all classroom and standardized tests have time limits, so use all of the time you're allotted.
The key to alleviating anxiety is knowledge. The more you know in advance about an exam--such as content, format, and time limits--the less you'll worry. Knowing about an exam includes understanding the types of questions you?ll be asked, how the exam will be graded, how much time you'll have to respond, and so on. Best of all, when you've adequately prepared for the test--by study, practice, and frequent review of the material throughout the course--you'll succeed beyond your expectations. Which will give you even more confidence for the next exam.
Remember: Studying doesn't have to take a lot of time or involve torture. If you follow these pointers, you'll find that you're spending less time studying and getting more accomplished. Which means more time for entertainment and relaxation, and more time for the people and things that matter most in your life.
Aajma Manoj 10 years ago
i. Revision tips
Develop a timetable to monitor your progress. Make sure you allocate adequate time for fun and relaxation as well.
While revising a subject, practise writing. This would be an actual simulation of the examination itself. Plan your revision and complete it in time. This will give you a sense of achievement and build your confidence.
While revising, vary subjects and their difficulty so you don't get bored or disheartened. Set realistic targets of what you can achieve in the time available.
Spend as much time on recall as on reading. Practise by writing answers as you would do in the exam. This will help you remember the important points when you answer each paper.
Practise writing answers under exam conditions. Take three hour tests, without a break in between, preferably at the same time as that of the exam. This will help your body clock adjust to the examination time and conditions.
ii. Time out
To prevent mental fatigue, take a short break as soon as you notice your mind is losing concentration. Stick to activities that do not break your study continuum during these breaks. Avoid television and loud music. You will then be able to come back to your revision refreshed.
It is important to relax. Your mind and body perform at their best only if you get adequate rest.
iii. Maintain a regular sleep pattern
A regular seven hours of sleep is mandatory for the body to function well. Also, sleep at a regular time; don't alter your sleeping cycle.
It is not important whether you study late or get up early, as long as you get into the habit of being most alert at the same time as that of the exam.
Try and stop working an hour before bedtime. You will find it helpful to do some muscular relaxation, which is particularly effective in relieving stress.
iv. What to eat
Food rich in vitamins and proteins, such as green leafy vegetables and fresh fruits, are a must.
The nutrients will help your brain stay sharp. Avoid food with high fat content.
Don't drink too much coffee, tea or fizzy drinks. Caffeine will keep you up and reduce the clarity of your thinking.
v. NO distractions
Keep all unimportant issues at bay.
Right now, the board examinations should be your only focus. Stay away from distractions that could cause loss of concentration or unwanted anxiety. Stick to activities that do not break your study continuum.
vi. The power of positive thinking
Spend time with people who have a positive effect. It will rub off on you.
Avoid negative thoughts, such as 'Everyone else seems better organised, while I'm struggling.' Challenge such thoughts with positive thinking; for example, 'I have done well in exams before.'
vii. Practise relaxation techniques
Practise deep breathing, meditation and yoga as forms of relaxation. They help your body relax and reduce stress. Alternately, take a brisk walk in fresh air after your day's revision is over.
If you believe in God, pray before you start studying. Prayer will help you increase confidence reduce your stress as well.
And yes, lots of luck with those exams.
Aajma Manoj 10 years ago
Exam fear
Exams are a way of assessing what a student has learned during the academic year. Apart from this, it is also a method through which the student's learning and grasping abilities are evaluated and graded by the teacher. This makes it very important for students to learn well, and achieve good scores in the exam. However, for most students, exams bring with it lot of tension, stress and anxiety. The main reason for this is because of increased pressure that they receive from their parents and teachers to perform well in the exams. Although a little bit of exam fear and anxiousness is important to study and learn before the exams, too much tension can hamper the student's ability to do well. Many times, due to exam fear, students tend to forget what they have learned, thus scoring less than they could have. Hence, it is extremely crucial for students to learn about how to reduce exam fear, so that they can give their examination confidently, subsequently earning good grades.
How to Overcome Exam Fear
Students who are suffering from exam fear are likely to experience problems like difficulty in concentrating while studying, confusion, feeling tensed while looking at difficult questions, feeling blank, dizziness, sweating, sleeplessness, etc. All these factors can cause the student to feel more anxious which can affect his performance during the exam. Hence, students should know how to avoid exam fear and do well during the examinations. You can gain more information on exam fear through the article on test anxiety in students.
Prepare Well in Advance
One of the most common reasons for the student to feel exam fear is lack of preparation. There are many students who take studies lightly, thus leaving everything to be studied at the last minute. This will surely cause anxiety as the student does not know where to start, and what to study. Hence, the easiest way of overcoming exam fear is to start studying much before the exam. Studying regularly, what is taught in the class will save you lot of time to revise before the exams. Also, as you have studied everything already, you will not feel tense that you have not prepared an important topic or subject. You can learn about some effective ways of preparing for an exam through the article, study tips for exams.
Learn, Do Not Mug Up
One of the mistakes that many students make is that they mug up without understanding what they are studying. Students must understand that this is not the correct way of studying. Moreover, the chances of forgetting is more, when one has memorized without understanding. Hence, it is very important to first understand the concept that one is studying and then, memorizing it. In this way, you will never forget any important point. Also, you will be able to present the points in your own words, even if you do not remember the answer word to word. Understanding the concept, before memorizing will actually lead to effective learning. Here are some tips on achieving success in your exams.
Make Time to Relax
Examination time does not mean that you have to sit with your books the entire day. This actually should be avoided, and one should take regular breaks to relax and refresh one's mind. Indulge in some kind of exercises like walking, jogging or playing your favorite sport during the break. Apart from this, listening to music, talking to friends and family, will also help you in relaxing during your exam time. However, it would be better to avoid watching television or browsing the Internet during this time. This is because, many students are addicted to television and Internet and one is likely to waste time on it, more than what was intended.
Revise Properly
The last few weeks before the examination should be spent by revising each subject. Plan out a timetable in such a way that you get equal time to revise every topic. During this time, you can make some small notes which will make it easier for you to remember points and revise them quickly. If you are concerned about your writing speed, practicing solving a question paper of a previous year would give you more confidence. It will also help you in knowing what you should take care while writing your exam paper.
Additional Tips to Overcome Exam Fear
Apart from the above given study tips to overcome exam fear before the examinations, here are some more points that will help students to cope with the anxiety which begins with the arrival of exams. Here is some more information on exam preparation tips.
One very important thing that students should remember, is to avoid studying anything new just before the exam. This will cause more anxiety and you may forget what you have already learned.
It is also important to avoid having conversations with your friends about what they have studied, how much they have studied. This will make you more tense and nervous.
If you are feeling very tense and anxious, just before entering the examination venue, take a few deep breaths which will help you to relax.
During the exam, if you get tensed or blank after seeing difficult questions, skip them for the time being and attempt questions which you find easier. Once you have completed them, go back to the difficult ones. In this way, you will surely be able to answer them confidently.
I hope these tips on overcoming exam fear has been helpful for students. However, along with the students, even parents have the responsibility to make sure that their children do not go through any kind of tension or stress during exams. Many times, children experience exam fear because of the pressure that parents put on them. Although this is important, they must see to it that they do not go overboard and pressurize their children so much, that they are not able to study anything. Parents must understand that each student has certain capabilities and encouraging them to study, rather than causing them stress, can help them in giving their exams confidently.